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5 Ways to Ditch Perfectionism and Let Go Of the “All-or-Nothing” Mentality

5 Ways to Ditch Perfectionism and Let Go Of the “All-or-Nothing” Mentality


5 Ways to Ditch perfectionism and let go of the all-or-nothing personality

Do you struggle with trying to “do it all” and “be it all” every day? Do you get overwhelmed with your own expectations and ideas of what your life should look like? Are you constantly ditching your fitness and health goals because you throw in the towel when you don’t follow your plan perfectly?  If so, I want to give you some tips to help you quit chasing perfection and let go of the all-or-nothing mentality.

The pursuit of perfection has been a struggle for me my entire adult life. Each time we added an additional baby to our tribe I had to train myself to accept the feeling of being “out of control”. I would give every other mom grace upon grace but I couldn’t manage to be kind to myself! Having an all-or-nothing personality effects every area of our lives but I want to get specific today and chat about how you can overcome this mental block when it comes to goals such as weight loss, muscle gain or becoming overall healthier in terms of your physical health.

Before I hash out a bunch of tips for you I want to let you know exactly how this mentality is effecting your goals. On Sunday You set a goal for your week. You get excited about your goal and decide once and for all you are going to lose the weight or run that marathon.  By midweek you’re still pretty fired up about your goals. You’re feeling a little lighter because you have dropped some weekend water weight, you have had a few good workouts and your endorphins are high and you’re proud of yourself for the healthy meals you have managed to accomplish. Finally, you make it to Friday. It’s the last day of school and you decided to take you kids for frozen yogurt. This was totally last minute and not on the meal plan but you think to yourself  “Well, it is Friday and we are celebrating so maybe I will just have a small FroYo.” Fifteen minutes later you’ve consumed the largest most delicious frozen yogurt on the planet. Topped with peanut butter cups, caramel sauce and one of those Nanaimo bars you couldn’t go without. I want you to know there is nothing wrong with this! it’s what happens next that sabotages your entire week.

Treats are ok. Dessert isn’t the devil and you can enjoy life while reaching your goals. The problem is when you finish your frozen yogurt and you tell yourself “I’ve ruined the whole week. I’ve been missing out for an entire 4.75 days and I am so over this! This new health diet didn’t even work. I don’t want to feel restricted. I might as well just have whatever I want this weekend”. Cue overindulgence of wine, chocolate, pizza, ice cream, chips, guacamole and beers.

So if this is what happens to you, I want you to be encouraged that you are not alone and that this is a common problem for women. We do this all the time and we are all perfectly imperfect. Here are some tips to help you say goodbye to those weekend binges and hello to accomplishing all your goals!


5 Ways to Ditch Perfectionism and Let Go Of the “All-or-Nothing” Mentality


1.)  Accept that you are going to mess up over and over again- Wake up, plan for success, make some goals that will get you where you want to be but don’t stop there. Make a 2nd plan for yourself. A plan to forgive yourself when you make a mistake and a plan to pick yourself up when you blow your diet or skip a workout. Wondering why this is important? By doing this you have already established that you are not perfect before you begin. Give yourself grace so that if and when you fall you will be able to remind yourself that you are worth getting back up for. Don’t throw in the towel and break the promise you made to yourself.

2.)  Realize that you are not your body, diet or goal-  So you made a goal and guess what that’s all it is “a goal”. A goal is defined as “the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result”. It is just that. You are still a person without your goal. You are not a failure if you don’t reach your goal tomorrow. Keep this in mind when you are creating your plan on how you will accomplish these goals and remember the people you love will still likely be there regardless of how well you followed your meal plan.

3.) Start out Slow- Don’t jump all in and do the whole 30 . If you want to try the whole 30 or some other very restrictive style of eating go for it but let that be a long term goal. Instead, focus on small little goals and add a new one each week. For example, this week choose to have no added sugar and diet coke. Next week try adding one meal a day of completely whole foods while sticking with your previous weeks goals. Before you know it your whole eating routine will have changed and you won’t even notice!

4.) Stop Caring What Other People think about your “diet”- I spent years feeling out of place because I would chose to not eat certain things at social functions. Recently, I have found great freedom in releasing this burden.  I prayed about this for a long time and God has slowly but surely given me freedom in this area. When I am feeling embarrassed or out of place because of a food choice I find peace by remembering that these choices don’t effect anyone but myself. God gives us the gift of choice and food is included in these choices.

5.) Celebrate every small victory-  Did you eat a homemade salad for lunch when you normally eat takeout? Stop and high five yourself right now because every small choice is leading to a healthier mind and body. Try to look at the new delicious healthy choices as a blessing instead of a curse. We are so blessed to live in a place where we do have the option of giving our bodies the best possible nutrition. When I eat a healthy meal I always enjoy it because my mind has been trained to recognise heathy food as a way to feel good and maintain the best health I can. Do it for you. Do it for your kids. Do it because we are blessed enough to have access to these healthy options.

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